Raise your hand if you consider yourself an introvert. You can’t see it, but I’m over here waving both hands wildly above my head. Interesting fact about me: I’d rather spend time relaxing with a good book, a cup of coffee, and music playing in the background than spend any amount of time “out on the town”. Yeah, I’m definitely what you would consider introverted. So today I thought I’d give y’all a look into what’s going on in the head of an introvert (ok, maybe just my head but you get the idea).
Confessions of an Introvert
1) Sometimes I’m an unintelligible babbling mess. My husband calls these my ‘deer in the headlights’ moments. They usually happen when I’m meeting new people or thrust unexpectedly into a conversation. Someone will ask a perfectly simple question and I’ll reply with a string of nonsense.
It’s not that I have no idea what I’m talking about–I promise–it’s just that most of the time in social situations, my mind (which is usually full of witty remarks, I can assure you) freezes up and I can’t come up with one single thing to say. Like I know I’m supposed to be saying something, but no intelligible words are coming out of my mouth.
More often than not conversations end with the other person looking at me like “what-is-wrong-with-you-I-just-asked-you-what-a-blogger-does” and my blurting out something that sounds an awful lot like “Uhm…..we….write stuff….about…you know….life…..and….stuff.” Yep, real pretty. Also is it just me or is blogging really hard to explain to people?
2) Group get-togethers are the bane of my existence. Honestly there’s no better way to see me break out in cold sweats than telling me you’re inviting a large group of people together and I’m invited. Unlike extroverts who feel energized when they’re surrounded by people, I’m pretty much the opposite. Because of this, I’m really sorry but I think I’m going to be sick the night of your party.
3) Ok so sometimes, I do force myself to socialize from time to time. But if I am at some kind of an event, you can pretty much guarantee I have a book hidden in my purse. You know, just in case things get boring or someone tries to engage me in conversation. It’s sort of a preemptive measure against the blurting and the awkward sentence-forming.
4) Small talk is not my cup of tea. Some people are really great at small talk and I envy them. Actually, that’s not quite true–I find small talk annoying. I mean, do any of us really care about the weather that much? I get it though, small talk is supposed to prevent those long pauses and awkward silences. But, honestly, what exactly is wrong with silence? If we’re going to talk about something, let’s talk about something deep. Like your childhood or your favorite presidential candidate? Actually, scratch that—let’s just go with silence. Silence is best.
5) I do not “go around the room and share”. You remember in school teachers were really big into this little torture technique? Do you also see the streak of multicolors fleeing from the room right at the moment they uttered this phrase? Yeah, that was me running for the hills. I’m also not a fan of the whole raising-your-hand thing. Because, hello, for some reason EVERYONE turns to look at you when you do that!! Cue all the cold sweats and babbling.
6) When it comes to hanging out, I can be spontaneous……if I have a few
hours days notice. Yeeeeeeah so I guess, that’s not really all that spontaneous but I need time to prepare before I go out into the world of people. Zach and I had a hard time with this when we first got married. He’d come home with a cursory “Hey babe, so-and-so invited us to go to dinner with them in about an hour so you better start getting ready” line and I would….well…kinda freak out. And yes, if you’re wondering, Zach is more of an extrovert. And yes, it does make life interesting sometimes.
7) I rehearse phone conversations in my head……and sometimes on paper. To be honest, the phone ringing gives me a small heart attack and even if I like you, I probably still screen your calls.
When I do force myself to make a call, I pretty much spend the fifteen minutes beforehand scripting the conversation on a notepad and brainstorming all possible answers to any questions you might throw at me.
People like me (and Gru apparently ) are why texting was invented….and email….and pretty much every technological convenience that keeps us from doing the whole talking thing.
8) I work better one-on-one. I think because if we’re the only two having a conversation, I’m actually expecting your attention to be focused on me. Whereas in a group, I’m desperately hoping your attention is on anyone BUT me. If you really want to get to know me, this is the way to do it. I might actually surprise you by how talkative and animated I am. (I promise I’m really not as weird as I sound on paper).
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What is one of your “confessions”?