Remember back when I used to do my Thoughts for your Thoughts series? I loved writing this post and I’ve had a few more ideas for the series during these past months. So, in honor of our six-year anniversary of being a military family, here I am sharing a few of my military spouse confessions.
Also, fair warning, all of these are in good fun and solely my opinion.
My Military Spouse Confessions
1) I dread FRG meetings. Not as much as I did before I had a kiddo (because going to an FRG meeting both childless and un-pregnant is akin to a nightmare), but they still make my blood pressure skyrocket.
2) There’s a small part of me that enjoys having the whole bed to myself when the husband is away. It’s a really small part of me but still, silver linings.
3) I will never understand how my husband can lose parts of his gear in our house. It’s one of military life’s great mysteries.
4) Sometimes rank does sneak itself into military spouse friendships. I feel like this isn’t a cool thing to admit but it’s proved true in my experience. I know, I know, spouses don’t have rank and, in theory, it’s perfectly plausible to have a whole Army Wives situation happening but, it’s just not how things work within the same chain of command. Despite that, though, you’ll probably never find a community as welcoming as ours. As a group, we’re pretty cool.
5) If you have an “Army Wife-Toughest Job in the Army” bumper sticker, I’m silently judging you.
6) Conversely, I only wear my husband’s PT shirt in the house specifically for fear of being silently judged. Life is funny.
7) Sometimes I don’t feel like a real military spouse. I don’t drink wine, avoid the commissary on payday, or do pretty much any of the things military spouses are ‘supposed’ to do.
8) I firmly believe that some military spouses out there fit into the stereotypes the rest of us are always hating on. Why? Because just like within every other group of people, there are good examples, bad examples, and every example in between. Can we all agree to just be ourselves and forget about which stereotype we supposedly fit into?
9) When I was giving birth to E, I cried when I saw my husband’s social security number on my and Baby E’s hospital bracelets. I’d like to say it was the hormones, but deep down, I admit it that military life sometimes makes me feel invisible. Even at the birth of my own child.
10) The other day I went through a folder of old photos and was struck by how much I’ve changed since Zach joined the Army. I vividly remember how devastated I was when he left for basic. Fast forward six years and three months doesn’t sound all that long to me.
11) I admit that I’m one of ‘those’ military spouses. I catch myself using military jargon in everyday speech, take great pride in the fact that I know all the words to the Army song, prefer military movies to romcoms, and get extremely annoyed when someone refers to every service member as a soldier or calls an Army post a base. Yep, I know–I’m weird.
12) Even with deployment and separations and everything in between, I really do enjoy military life. Without the experiences (even the hard ones) I’ve had as a military spouse, I would not the be the person I am today.
Do you have any military spouse confessions? I’d love to hear them!